BIG & BOOTIFUL: Decisions .. Book One

Well its all happening this end now…

I have now got my cover for Big & Bootiful: Decisions (Book One) and I am delighted 🙂
The model is just stunningly beautiful and exactly how I envisaged Brianna to be in my head and the design gives a hint of the story to be told between the pages inside.

The book is under edit with the lovely lovely Grace Bell of Gracie House Editing & Marketing and I am just tweaking  a few bits before Grace can do the final checks for me and Big & Bootiful can go live on Amazon 🙂

Am so so excited about this book especially as its my first foray into erotica fiction… so what’s the story you may ask?
Well you need to read the book to find out but here is a low-down for you….

‘Brianna is stunningly beautiful … for a big girl? But she can’t see it herself. Happily married to Steve she thought it was love for life, until death us do part ..but life has that habit of throwing a spanner in the works. Brianna was forced to make decisions about her future … decisions that had huge consequences … she wasn’t ready to love again or commit to another relationship yet she discovered she had fallen for a man so far out of her league. But how do her life decisions affect her relationship with the one man who can set the world to rights for her? Would she ever find true love and happiness again? After all big girls deserve respect and love as much as anyone else don’t they?’

If you are wondering how I got the title… well… I had the utter priviledge of having a song written for me back in 2014/15 by the wonderful Lyn Sheppard of Positive Impulse Studios Ltd in Chesterfield, Derbyshire – I sang the song called Big & Bootiful and it is on iTunes, Amazon and Google play for download if anyone would like it. Its a superb size positive track about how Big can be Bootiful and big girls can enjoy and have just as much fun in sex and romance if the boys just give them a chance.

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Facebook I feel is like the Great Divide – it attracts keyboard warriors, paranoia, unpleasantness, misunderstood comments, bullying, victimisation, sadness/sorrow, rudeness, jealousy and adultery – but on the flip side it also brings joy, happiness, contact with friends and family, rekindling of long lost love and friendships, knowledge/education, fun, laughter, lots of trivia, some profundness, and networking 🙂

I love Facebook as it is so many things – but I don’t enjoy the darker side of it..  From time to time I have had my moments on there – when I guess I have been a little opinionated (something I was not aware I was until recently!) but as a close friend pointed out I am opinionated in a good way – when I see an injustice – or misinformation being spread around the internet, or when I know 100% I am right LOL. but them I realised we are all opinionated after all are we not?

Someone today has made a passing comment that they weren’t sure it was proper or right for a woman to write adult erotica – I was a little agog at this – surely anyone can write about any topic they wish – so then this got me musing – is there a stigma attached to women writing adult erotica or other genres? I would have thought that we were just as capable if not more so to write about sex and its complications 🙂

So I went for a browse round the internet and can up with a few other blogs and viewpoints….
Popsugar wrote about the new Editor of the Erotic Review magazine and her opinion that men write better sex..
Author Martin Amis believes women do write better sex…

So it seems the world is still divided on that score!

 

Don’t Procrastinate

Someone said to me recently – must be great to work from home – you don’t know how lucky you are – being able to do as you please – stop when you want etc. I nodded my head and agreed at the time but then that gave me pause for thought. Was I lucky? Was working from home so much better than travelling to your workplace every day…

So I decided to draw up the Pros and Cons…
See what you think?

PRO WORKING FROM HOME:

  • You aren’t (technically) set to any time frame so have flexibility with your daily routine
  • If you want to work in your Onesie you can!
  • At least you are home to let the dogs out regularly for their ablutions right?
  • You can work later into the evening or even overnight if that helps you to get things done or when you feel most productive
  • Everything you could want is generally to hand if you set your work area up correctly from the start
  • If you have children its far easier working from home than trying to organise transport or crèches/childminders
  • Some people find they get far more done when they are in a familiar relaxed environment

CONS WORKING FROM HOME:

  • Constant distractions from daily life
  • Family life can often get in the way of setting aside time to work
  • Family constantly asking you to errands as you are home to do them
  • Visitors popping in for a catch up or coffee without considering you need to work
  • The attitude of some that you don’t work at all but skive at home all day
  • The isolation of working from home – especially if you live alone
  • The real fear that you cannot close the door on work so you end up living – eating – breathing it 24/7
  • The actual outgoings from running a business from home

As you can see it’s fairly evenly matched BUT the ‘cons’ are quite hefty consequences to bear! Every job or business is different – there will be more or less cons depending on what it is. For me I am a Writer and I design knitting patterns for babies & toddlers.  So should be easy peasy for me – right?

Well no – actually it’s very difficult! I am just dipping my toe into my 50s age wise – so no childish distractions (unless you can count the man in my life – adult baby comes to mind!) So how do I manage to get any work done?

Well I confess to procrastinating recently – we moved house in Autumn 2016 – the move was a positive one to a larger detached home – private – quiet – less stresses and distractions to our previous property and perfect for writing. But of course moving house means a huge change in routine and for months afterwards you are often still unpacking boxes – redecorating – sorting the garden or doing any other nature of jobs that need to be completed– that immediately sends your routine out the window – then I have been trying to get my office unpacked and set up to maximise productivity and as we know personal living space usually takes priority over office space. So for 5 months now I have been flitting from job to job around the home and until this week had not really got my office space unpacked and organised and even worse been very sporadic and fickle with my writing – I still have a few boxes in the corner to open too! Of course winter and weather meant I have been poorly – Xmas took up time as well and the man in my life got a new job and his transport died a death all in the same moment so I seem to have become taxi driver as well – which also makes my day difficult as its yet another distraction..

So as I am sat here writing this blog I am also writing a Schedule out in Microsoft Excel – just a normal spreadsheet with the days of the week in a column to the left and hourly time slots across the top – as I don’t particularly want to be scheduling work over through the night my cut off is 10pm and my start is 10am – this gives me time to get up – shower – eat – sort the animals etc. before I sit down at my desk. I print the blank schedule of each week and write in the boxes how my days need to be set out. I try to structure a minimum of 2hrs work then a mini break – even if it’s just coffee and wee time.  I include my ‘have to do’ distractions such as taking or collecting hubby from work – bedding the animals down for the night – doctor/work related appointments etc. and I try to stick to it.

There are various timer apps you can download for free on the internet or even online websites that you can set alarms on – by leaving the page open while you’re working it will activate when your time slot is up. I use Softonic’s Free Alarm Clock that works alongside your PC clock but there are several others out there such as Online Stopwatch – some that sit on your browser and can be activated as you need them and even some that can be downloaded to your mobile. I find that if you set alarms you become more focused to get the work done in the time you have allotted yourself.

Another thing you could do is perhaps inform your family and friends that you don’t want any distractions or interruptions for a set time period on a  certain day – so request no visitors – no interruptions at all unless urgent for the length of your time period required. But most of all you need to focus yourself – make sure you have everything you need to hand before you start – don’t get distracted by Facebook or Twitter or your mobile – switch them off if you need to – and then you should be able to get a bit more done than you used to! But also make sure you do leave time for family interaction so they – or even YOU don’t start to feel too isolated!

Wish me luck and good luck!

Colour & Pattern Varieties of the Netherland Dwarf Rabbit

My current publication was released 29th November 2016. I have been involved with the showing and breeding of Netherland Dwarf rabbits since my children were little some 30 years ago. In 2001 I had a break from it as the children had grown and flown and it just didn’t seem the same without them. Two years ago I decided to return to the UK Rabbit Fancy and now in my 50s I enjoy the whole social andcompetitive mix of people.

Lots had changed since 2001 with many new faces but with pleasure I found a lot of old faces too, some even remembered me from before so it was lovely to be welcomed back. Over the 30 years my interest in animal genetics had never waned and I was able to bring more to the table this time round so to speak. As before I decided to work on the rarer colours and patterns as they presented the greatest challenge and in return the greatest satisfaction when I hopefully achieve my goals.

It soon came to my attention that with social media being what it is a lot of misinformation was being given in answer to queries by rabbit owners and breeders regarding genes and modifiers – a lot were in my view also making big mitskaes in what they were breeding together. As people began to realise I knew a bit aout genes I began to be the ‘go to’ person if they had a query and so my next book was born!

It took a year to write, research the genes I was less familiar with and source the many photos required (116 images to be exact), I also had to wait for permission to be granted for me to use the British Rabbit Council (BRC) rabbit standards etc, so it was a long process.
The book has proved to be very popular around the world with many requests to have it translated into other languages too which I hope to do later this year (2017). Within its first week it became No1 Bestseller New Release for the Pet/Small Livestock category on Amazon and I am very grateful to all of you who purchased the book and have found it useful. Feedback is still coming through and the general consensus is that the book was a much needed tool for Netherland Dwarf owners and breeders who wanted to learn more about colour and pattern.

Colour & Pattern Varieties of the Netherland Dwarf is available to purchase on Amazon (both.com and .co.uk) … click -> Visit Divina Blackwell-Bates Author page on Amazon

Breeding Merle Dogs

So I am going to take this opportunity to recap on my current publications available on Amazon.. this post I want to talk about ‘Breeding Merles Responsibly’
As a life long dog breeder and exhibitor there were a few things that happened in the dog world – specifically the Chihuahua which had breed wide repercussions within the UK.
Back in the 80s imports stepped up a  gear and became more popular – dogs started to arrive from the USA and one of note was a Chihuahua called Chocolate Chops Ahoy, a chocolate merle Chihuahua – on his wave of popularity and demand came the wake of cross-bred merles being passed off as pedigrees and coupled with the lack of knowledge of how the gene worked the Chihuahua Club of GB called for a ban on merle Chihuahuas being registered, using the cross breeding and a lethal gene as their leverage. This ban was later extended across the board to other breeds.

It became apparent that breeders really didn’t know what they were doing with the gene – I knew a bit about it but didn’t feel qualified enough to go public with my thoughts so I spent 3 yrs studying science papers – articles – researching the history of the American Merle Chihuahua and seeking evidence that the merle Chihuahua had been around much longer than the anti-propaganda was saying – I read all the scare-mongering and anti- propaganda posts I could find and I bred merles myself for 3 yrs recording every detail of each litter to see whether they were indeed really unhealthy sickly animals.

The end result of all that work was my book .. I devised a breeding program that would cause the minimum of issues and recommended health testing before letting pups go to new homes, as well as ensuring the new owner was given a break down of the merle gene and what it should and should not be bred to.

All these details are in the book for anyone to use as well as a break down of the gene and the various patterns that appear. Definitely a must-have for those serious about maintaining a good reputation as a Merle Breeder.

Breeding Merles Responsibly can be purchased on AMAZON  … to visit my Author page click ->… Divina Blackwell-Bates on Amazon

 

Welcome…

Well after 3 x published books (non-fiction) I decided it was high time I created a little corner of internet presence for myself. I do have a Facebook page but felt I needed more scope to ramble and keep my fans/readers up to date with the news – views and ramblings of my mind – and so this blog was born.

I hope you will enjoy – laugh – feel sad (only on rare occasion) and become totally embroiled within my world of writing … characters … plot-lines … background research and how my ideas are born 🙂

There will also be the odd giveaway and competition – sneaky peek first glance at some of my books and any secret I choose to let you in on 😉

In the meantime – bear with me as I get used to the workings of this fan-dangled system we call blogs!

Love Divina xx